A Guide to Sharing Your Expectations with Your Psychologist

Seeing a psychologist is a big step in the right direction when it comes to prioritising your mental health. This is why it’s so important to make sure that each session suits your needs perfectly. But how do you go about assuring that your expectations are met?

Some aspects of a psychologist cannot be changed, such as the therapies they are trained to deliver or the issues they are most experienced with. But the truth is that much of your therapy sessions are flexible. After all, your psychologist wants to provide you with the best session for your individual needs. They, of course, can only do that if you share those expectations with them. To help you through the process, we have outlined three ways to communicate what you want…

Think about what you want

As your first session gets closer, you might have some hopes for what it will be like. Perhaps you’re imagining a situation where you’re simply talking about hardships that have gotten you down. Or maybe you want them to spend equal amounts of time listening and coaching you through some useful techniques.

Whatever you imagine your ideal session to be, it’s a good idea to think about the factors that would contribute to it. It can be helpful to ask yourself certain questions, such as: do I want them to use plain language or psychology terms?; is there anything that previous psychologists have done that has rubbed me the wrong way?; would I prefer if they kept their sense of humour to themselves? Just these few questions can say a lot about the type of session you’re after. So once you have given it a bit of thought, you should be able to better articulate what your expectations are.

Communicate in a way that works for you

The first step towards being on the same page as your psychologist is to share your expectations with them. This might seem obvious, but it’s easy to get overwhelmed and forget to communicate altogether!

There are no set rules for how you do this. If you’re comfortable addressing your expectations on the phone or in person during your first session, that’s great! If the thought of doing that makes you uncomfortable, that’s okay too. In this case, it can be a good idea to write down your expectations on a piece of paper before your first session. That way, if you find it too difficult to bring up the topic yourself, you can simply hand your psychologist the paper to read. They understand that it can be difficult to open up about these things, so whichever way you feel most comfortable is perfectly fine. Remember, the most important thing is that you communicate these feelings to begin with!

Be open to discussing your expectations with your psychologist

Once you have expressed your expectations to your psychologist, they may want to speak to you about them in more detail. This allows them to ensure your expectations can be met.

A good example of this might be if you tell them that you want them to act more like a ‘friend’ than someone who is coaching you through your problems. In this case, they will want to clarify with you that, as your psychologist, ‘friend’ isn’t an appropriate expectation. This is because you cannot do typical ‘friendly’ activities together, such as get coffee or go to the movies. This might lead you to explain that when you used the word ‘friend’, you meant that you want them to be warm, understanding and listen to your problems. These, of course, are perfectly reasonable things to want from a psychologist. It’s situations like these where being open to discussing your expectations is important. This is because it will ensure that you receive the type of help that will benefit you most.

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